My partner in the dialog asked, “Why am I not getting the thing I want?” In this particular case, it was a promotion at work, but it could be anything–maybe you want to find a fulfilling life partner, or you’d like to be more confident, or make more sales calls, or make a significant change in career or life style or whatever it may be. Part of the answer is this: you need to be receptive and open to actually receive it.
Back in the 1980′s I played a little college baseball and I can tell you that you can’t catch a ball if your glove is closed! It bounces right off! Maybe this has already given you an “Aha! I never thought of that” moment–but even so, read on for tips on how to open up so you can “catch” that “ball” you are seeking.
Back in the 1980′s I played a little college baseball and I can tell you that you can’t catch a ball if your glove is closed! It bounces right off! Maybe this has already given you an “Aha! I never thought of that” moment–but even so, read on for tips on how to open up so you can “catch” that “ball” you are seeking.
What does it mean to be “open”?
Being open means that you expect to get what you want. This is your mindset. In terms of getting what you want, it is just as important to believe you will get what you want as it is to take the actions necessary to get it. If your mind and heart are closed to receiving, then you will not get what you want even when it is within your very grasp.
Let’s take the example of having lunch at your favorite restaurant. Suppose you’re going to lunch with a group of friends. You’re going to want good service at the restaurant. Now, if you go in there with an attitude of expectation–expecting that you’ll receive good service all along the line, how do you think you’ll approach the situation? Smile. Speak politely. Show patience. You’ll set the stage for achieving your desire by taking the upfront risk of doing these things because you expect that you’ll receive good service. The person serving you will pick up on this and will be likely to give you better service than if your belief was a negative one. Try it and see if this isn’t so!
Or, try just the opposite! Suppose you spend 45 minutes convincing yourself that you will certainly be disappointed by your lunch time experience. Get in the car and all the way over to the restaurant spend the time working yourself up into a state of negative belief, you’d probably hit the front doors exuding anger, impatience, and frustration before anything actually happened. What’s the likely outcome? The person serving you will likely respond with poor service and you’ll get exactly what you expected.
No matter how subtle, what we believe affects how we approach challenges, it affects how people treat us, and ultimately it affects what we receive.
Believing that good things are coming our way gives us the energy to keep trying. Being truly open to receive can facilitate wonderful changes in your life. Of course you also need to take actions to facilitate getting what you want. These are the things that will get the ball to be thrown your way. So, then, the question becomes,
“What can I do to be more open?”
The first thing is to know what you truly WANT. I have known many people who were really upset because they didn’t have what they wanted. When I asked them what they wanted, their answer was vague. So their results were vague. Be precise and focused in your mind so the results will be the same. For example: here’s a vague desire: “I want to get ahead at work.” A more precise way to put it is: “I want to be promoted to vice president of human resources…”
Next, it’s crucial to know what YOU truly want. Simply put, make sure what you seek is what YOU really want and not what you think you should be going after. Really think about this one. Are you chasing what will make your parents happy, friends happy, society happy, or what will make YOU happy?
Third, you have to truly believe, at the level of your deepest being, that you deserve it. Is there something that is keeping you from believing this? Reflect deeply on this and write down your thoughts so you can address those undercurrents of doubt that you may not even be aware of. Build up the strength of your belief by listing out the reasons why you do deserve it. This can be difficult for many of us, but if you press through the obvious objections that your rational mind throws out at you, and settle into a quiet, meditative state, positive reasons will begin to surface. This is the “gold” that you want to mine and begin thinking about.
As you begin considering all the reasons why you do deserve it, it’s important to believe you will actually get it. Take a few minutes, at least at the beginning of your day and before you retire for the night, to open your mind. Remove doubt. Remove fear of failing. Fill your mind with visions of getting what you want. Feel it. Expect it. Don’t be in a rush for it. Know that it will come when the time is right. And smile. Smiling is your body’s way of telling your mind, “Yes, I do believe.”
Now, this is often where people who have heard a little about the “law of attraction” or “positive thinking” get bogged down. Simply visualizing does not make it happen! You have to take action as well. Establish the steps you must take to achieve your goal. Ask yourself questions like “What do I need to do to get X?” instead of asking yourself limiting questions like “Why do I never get X?” Write down the steps and take action on them. You can do it!
Finally, it’s important to enjoy the present moment. Be happy where you are today. You have air in your lungs! You’re above ground! That’s always a great place to begin–with the simply acknowledgement that to have life is better than to not have life! Look for the good that is already present in your life. I know it is cliche, but how often do you stop to do it? So do it now. Count your blessings. Especially all the little small things in your life that are so often taken for granted.
What dream do you wish for? Are you ready to re-discover meaning, passion, and purpose for your life? If you’re ready to make changes in your life to take control of your mental, emotional, physical, and financial destiny, I’d love to spend some time talking with you! We can explore how to bring greater harmony and balance into your current life situation with a 45 minute FREE “life transformation strategy session.
In this session we will:
Click here to schedule your complimentary session!
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Being open means that you expect to get what you want. This is your mindset. In terms of getting what you want, it is just as important to believe you will get what you want as it is to take the actions necessary to get it. If your mind and heart are closed to receiving, then you will not get what you want even when it is within your very grasp.
Let’s take the example of having lunch at your favorite restaurant. Suppose you’re going to lunch with a group of friends. You’re going to want good service at the restaurant. Now, if you go in there with an attitude of expectation–expecting that you’ll receive good service all along the line, how do you think you’ll approach the situation? Smile. Speak politely. Show patience. You’ll set the stage for achieving your desire by taking the upfront risk of doing these things because you expect that you’ll receive good service. The person serving you will pick up on this and will be likely to give you better service than if your belief was a negative one. Try it and see if this isn’t so!
Or, try just the opposite! Suppose you spend 45 minutes convincing yourself that you will certainly be disappointed by your lunch time experience. Get in the car and all the way over to the restaurant spend the time working yourself up into a state of negative belief, you’d probably hit the front doors exuding anger, impatience, and frustration before anything actually happened. What’s the likely outcome? The person serving you will likely respond with poor service and you’ll get exactly what you expected.
No matter how subtle, what we believe affects how we approach challenges, it affects how people treat us, and ultimately it affects what we receive.
Believing that good things are coming our way gives us the energy to keep trying. Being truly open to receive can facilitate wonderful changes in your life. Of course you also need to take actions to facilitate getting what you want. These are the things that will get the ball to be thrown your way. So, then, the question becomes,
“What can I do to be more open?”
The first thing is to know what you truly WANT. I have known many people who were really upset because they didn’t have what they wanted. When I asked them what they wanted, their answer was vague. So their results were vague. Be precise and focused in your mind so the results will be the same. For example: here’s a vague desire: “I want to get ahead at work.” A more precise way to put it is: “I want to be promoted to vice president of human resources…”
Next, it’s crucial to know what YOU truly want. Simply put, make sure what you seek is what YOU really want and not what you think you should be going after. Really think about this one. Are you chasing what will make your parents happy, friends happy, society happy, or what will make YOU happy?
Third, you have to truly believe, at the level of your deepest being, that you deserve it. Is there something that is keeping you from believing this? Reflect deeply on this and write down your thoughts so you can address those undercurrents of doubt that you may not even be aware of. Build up the strength of your belief by listing out the reasons why you do deserve it. This can be difficult for many of us, but if you press through the obvious objections that your rational mind throws out at you, and settle into a quiet, meditative state, positive reasons will begin to surface. This is the “gold” that you want to mine and begin thinking about.
As you begin considering all the reasons why you do deserve it, it’s important to believe you will actually get it. Take a few minutes, at least at the beginning of your day and before you retire for the night, to open your mind. Remove doubt. Remove fear of failing. Fill your mind with visions of getting what you want. Feel it. Expect it. Don’t be in a rush for it. Know that it will come when the time is right. And smile. Smiling is your body’s way of telling your mind, “Yes, I do believe.”
Now, this is often where people who have heard a little about the “law of attraction” or “positive thinking” get bogged down. Simply visualizing does not make it happen! You have to take action as well. Establish the steps you must take to achieve your goal. Ask yourself questions like “What do I need to do to get X?” instead of asking yourself limiting questions like “Why do I never get X?” Write down the steps and take action on them. You can do it!
Finally, it’s important to enjoy the present moment. Be happy where you are today. You have air in your lungs! You’re above ground! That’s always a great place to begin–with the simply acknowledgement that to have life is better than to not have life! Look for the good that is already present in your life. I know it is cliche, but how often do you stop to do it? So do it now. Count your blessings. Especially all the little small things in your life that are so often taken for granted.
What dream do you wish for? Are you ready to re-discover meaning, passion, and purpose for your life? If you’re ready to make changes in your life to take control of your mental, emotional, physical, and financial destiny, I’d love to spend some time talking with you! We can explore how to bring greater harmony and balance into your current life situation with a 45 minute FREE “life transformation strategy session.
In this session we will:
- Uncover hidden challenges that may be the cause of chaos, stress and discord in your life.
- Create a crystal clear vision for your “ultimate life” of tremendous success on your terms with ample quality time and energy for all your priorities.
- Leave the session renewed, re-energized, and inspired to transform your life and accomplish all of the things that are really important to you.
Click here to schedule your complimentary session!
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