Category: Success

It’s True: You Really Can Restart Your Life And Be Who You Were Truly Born to Be! Here’s How…

11/17/2014

How would you like a complete “do over” for your life?

If the smart guys on “Big Bang Theory” ever get around to inventing time travel, you might physically have that opportunity. In the meanwhile, would you consider a “mid-life restart”? If so, are you ready to jump in and take massive, focused, consistent action to make it happen?

I’ve asked lots of people that question and usually they say, “Well, sure! I wouldn’t be calling you if I weren’t committed.” And they really mean it when they say it, but sometimes people have trouble actually “doing it” after they hang up the phone. Ideas start running through their minds that question their sanity. Is it really possible to “start over” in my life? To get a better relationship? To improve my health? To get out of debt or increase my income? And before they even get started, they’re defeated. (A couple of weeks ago my blog on self-sabotage explained how to defeat this line of thinking.)

How to raise your personal expectations and standards

11/1/2014

My wife and I recently attended a life changing Tony Robbins event called “Unleash the Power Within” in Dallas, TX. As a life transformation coach and organizational change consultant, I’ve been reading Tony’s books and listening to his tapes (that dates me!) and CD’s since the 1990’s. So, I had a bit of an idea what I might be getting myself into when we signed up. What I actually experienced, along with nearly 6000 other people, was so much more than I could ever condense into a blog post. Yes, I played full out. I yelled and hugged perfect strangers. I did the firewalk. I dropped some of my own limiting beliefs and healed some painful areas in my life. I even took up the 10 Day nutrition challenge. But how do you keep the momentum going after you come down from an experience like that?

One of the major take away points that is foundational for any lasting change in personal or professional success is the necessity of raising your own personal standards and expectations. This one shift itself can enable you to accomplish more than you ever thought possible. The trick is to learn how to push yourself to greater heights without pushing yourself over the edge.

How to Start Where You Are And Get To Where You Want To Be

10/9/2014

When I begin working with a new client one of the first things I do is have them tell me where they are already wildly successful. Why? Because it helps to re-frame attitudes and point out that they really are able to improve their lives and make changes. For most people, making occasional improvements in various areas of life isn’t too difficult. As you look at your life today, can you see any areas that may need improvement? It could be something about your career, your relationships, your finances, your spirituality, or something else.

While it’s true that you can think of plenty of ways to improve your situation, taking action and sticking with it is what separates the winners from the losers. A mentor once told me that “there are two kinds of people. ‘Dreamers‘ dream about what they want. All talk, no action. ‘Doers‘ go after what they want and don’t spend time yakking about it.” While this is not to endorse jumping into half-baked ideas, as a rule, the people who are “doers” tend to be much more successful in life than the others. How come?

Six Moral, Ethical, and Perfectly Legal Ways to Defeat Self Sabotaging Behaviors

10/2/2014

In my coaching practice I spend a lot of time talking with clients about making conscious, positive, resourceful choices to empower them toward accomplishing their goals. The problem that quickly surfaces is not always doing something “new” but is sometimes a matter of ceasing to do things that are self-sabotaging. Here are some of the major self-inflicted wounds that I’ve run across and how you can avoid them.

How to Get a Better Life by Asking Better Questions!

9/26/2014

In the audio version of Unlimited Power, Tony Robbins says, “The quality of your life is the quality of your questions.” That’s a powerful statement, but one that is often under appreciated. Questions can be an important way of communicating with others and getting inside their belief systems and most of us have some recognition of this power. We’ve been taught to ask “open ended” questions and to use active listening to encourage the person we are talking with to open up even more. People who have been trained in NLP will automatically begin using questions to ascertain someone’s representational systems. These are all great applications of question asking, but the most often overlooked application is also one of the most powerful—it’s when we turn the questions upon ourselves.

An Easy Way to Tap Into Success

9/22/2014

A few weeks ago I caught part of a video in which Jack Canfield was talking about this amazing technique called “tapping.” I was skeptical as I watched, but decided to investigate the literature and do some testing on myself. The process that Jack was describing is called EFT (emotional freedom technique) and it is a form of psychological acupressure based on the ancient principles of acupuncture. Instead of needles, EFT uses finger tapping on a series of key acupuncture points while focusing one’s thoughts on whatever happens to be the presenting issue (ie. pain, uncomfortable emotions, memories, cravings, etc.)

EFT operates on the premise that everything is made up of energy, including us, we’re simply moving it around, realigning it and allowing it to flow. The goal of EFT is to help the body to re-balance the internal energy field and accelerate healing. The underlying idea is that an energy imbalance in the body is at the root of illness, physical pain, depression, anxiety, fear, anger, etc. EFT re-balances the energy system and helps to relieve psychological stress and physical pain. Restoring the balance of the energy system allows the body and mind to resume their natural healing abilities. Practioners swear that EFT often works when nothing else will.

7 Ways To Instantly Spark Your Creativity and Passion

9/2/2014

One day I found myself in a room with several hundred highly creative and passionate entrepreneurs from around the world. There was a level of energy and expectation that rippled through the room as we waited for the conference to begin. From the lighting to the music being played to the pictures on the big screen of the previous night’s “meet and greet” social to the optimal ambient room temperature and the physical arrangement of the seating-everything had been carefully crafted to create an environment that would bring out exactly what the speaker wanted-which was to create a group of fully associated (i.e. “in the present moment”), highly energetic, and sharply focused individuals who were relaxed, playful, and ready to receive the presenter’s message.
As I got to know some of the very talented people in the room and the amazing things which they had accomplished, my “coaching” hat came out and I started to wonder about “creativity” and “passion.” How does creativity begin? Does it start as a dream? Does a light bulb suddenly appear over your head? Or is there something specific you can do to spark your creativity and passion.

It’s Back to School Time. How to Use Visualization to Quickly Become a Better Learner

8/20/2014

It’s the end of August, summer is coming to a close, and the beginning of a new school year is upon us. There is great promise in new beginnings. My daughter is busy preparing her Kindergarten classroom for the new group of kids who will show up in few days and my wife and I are doing our best to help her with all of the things that go with teaching elementary grades.

As I do these tasks, my mind often wanders and the other day I began thinking about the process of learning itself. How does that actually work? What is the “winning mindset” that one needs to have when it comes learning something new? How do you approach learning (which can be a scary thing) with feelings of confidence in yourself as a learner?

I think many of us have convinced ourselves that learning is hard, after all, we’re not kids anymore and it’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks! Obviously, learning is truly going to be all that more difficult if you enter into the task from an orientation of self-doubt, of recalling negative experiences from 40 years ago when you were in grammar school, when you operate from a lack of confidence.What should you do if you don’t have great self-confidence in yourself as a student or life-long learner? What is you are bored to death or are convinced that you’ll never understand the subject matter?

The good news is that you can harness the power of visualization to dramatically improve your ability to learn quickly and easily.

Five Essential Principles of Success That You Can Implement Today

8/13/2014

When I am writing, or giving a presentation, or even just having a chat with someone waiting in line to check out at the store, a key principle that I try to impart is my belief that all of us have the capacity to live lives that are truly remarkable. While everybody CAN lead an extraordinary life, unfortunately, most of us DON’T come close to achieving what we are truly capable of.

One of my favorite resources, and one that I often use in workshops or with private coaching clients is the fantastic book “The Success Principles” by Jack Canfield. He gives over sixty different principles which can be especially helpful to anyone who is interested in improving their life, relationships, finances, health, and a number of other items.

While I don’t have space to go over all of his principles, I’ve picked out a few that I think will make a huge impact, in the least of amount of time, with the least amount of effort on your part. Here’s my “Top Five” Canfield Success Principles:

Want To Meet Your Deadlines, Get Your Boss or Spouse Off Your Back, and Enjoy The Rest of Your Day? Try These Seven Steps to Overcoming Your Internal Resistance and Defeating Procrastination Now!

7/19/2014

So, I’m FINALLY getting around to doing this piece on procrastination…

Procrastination, at root, is a choice. I really do have the ability to take the trash out to the curb the night before trash day, but I choose to watch TV instead. I am perfectly capable of returning my phone messages, but I choose to check my Facebook and Twitter accounts and then go for coffee. I could have done this article four months ago when some friends asked me to, but I chose not to do so.

Whether it’s doing your chores, writing your dissertation, or renewing your driver’s license, it seems that most of us need to experience an elevated level of pain before we take action to get it done. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just program ourselves to do the right thing at the right time?

Why does it have to hurt before you are willing to do something about it? There’s really no reason that I keep postponing things other than…

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