One of the things that I spend a lot of time talking with people about is the concept of the “true self/false self” dichotomy that we all operate with. The overwhelming majority of us are not living from our deepest, true self but instead we’re attempting to “do life” while being pulled in different direction from a profound inner turmoil that prevents us from really moving into our destiny.
Have you ever noticed how people believe certain things about themselves, and yet how the exact opposite trait tends to show up in their actions? Values drive actions.
What do you value? If you truly value a particular thing/trait, then it will show up in your actions. How many times have you said you value something, but then you never followed through and actually did it?
Values have little to do with talk, but everything to do with walk. For example, you may say you value your health, but if you never exercise and continue to fill it with junk food, then your actions reveal that, despite your talk, you do not truly value your health. You may say you value your family, but if you do not spend quality time with your spouse and children, then no matter how much you protest and offer excuses, the fact is that something else in your life has a higher value you and you are choosing it over them.
Values are your core beliefs and they manifest in daily life as the actions you take in the moment of choice. You will choose to live out what you value.
This is a great time of the year (as we move into establishing our new Fall Season routines) to do a thorough and honest inventory, asking the question, “Am I really living my values?” Here's how to get started...
Have you ever noticed how people believe certain things about themselves, and yet how the exact opposite trait tends to show up in their actions? Values drive actions.
What do you value? If you truly value a particular thing/trait, then it will show up in your actions. How many times have you said you value something, but then you never followed through and actually did it?
Values have little to do with talk, but everything to do with walk. For example, you may say you value your health, but if you never exercise and continue to fill it with junk food, then your actions reveal that, despite your talk, you do not truly value your health. You may say you value your family, but if you do not spend quality time with your spouse and children, then no matter how much you protest and offer excuses, the fact is that something else in your life has a higher value you and you are choosing it over them.
Values are your core beliefs and they manifest in daily life as the actions you take in the moment of choice. You will choose to live out what you value.
This is a great time of the year (as we move into establishing our new Fall Season routines) to do a thorough and honest inventory, asking the question, “Am I really living my values?” Here's how to get started...
To find your values, it can be helpful to start with a list. This is one is as good as any, so feel free to start with this one (or make your own).
Now, go through the list and identify your top ten values. Then, out of that list of ten, go through it again and choose your top five. Then repeat and cull the list to three. One of those three will be your top value.
Chances are, you value all of the ten you started with, but the point is to discover what you value most so that when competing “good” values present themselves, you can prioritize or make trade-offs, you have some way of making those calls. You can also ask family members or close friends to tell you what they believe you value. They know you best and have seen your life up close and personal.
After examining yourself you may realize you have some values you do not particularly like. The good news is you can change your values. Remember, values deal with how you act and you can change how you act. In other words, if you thought you valued honesty, but after inspecting yourself you see dishonesty actually shows up more often than you would like; you can change that.
Remember, you have the power to change your values. Don’t waste another moment being frustrated, angry, or sorrowful. Begin changing your values from what they are to what you desire them to be. When you are living your true self, you’ll enjoy life more. Start on your journey to living your true self today!
Want some help getting aligned with your core values in order to re-discover meaning, passion, and purpose for your life? If you’re ready to make changes in your life to take control of your mental, emotional, physical, and financial destiny, I’d love to spend some time talking with you! We can explore how to bring greater harmony and balance into your current life situation with a 45 minute FREE life transformation strategy session.
In this session we will:
Click here to schedule your complimentary session!
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Now, go through the list and identify your top ten values. Then, out of that list of ten, go through it again and choose your top five. Then repeat and cull the list to three. One of those three will be your top value.
Chances are, you value all of the ten you started with, but the point is to discover what you value most so that when competing “good” values present themselves, you can prioritize or make trade-offs, you have some way of making those calls. You can also ask family members or close friends to tell you what they believe you value. They know you best and have seen your life up close and personal.
After examining yourself you may realize you have some values you do not particularly like. The good news is you can change your values. Remember, values deal with how you act and you can change how you act. In other words, if you thought you valued honesty, but after inspecting yourself you see dishonesty actually shows up more often than you would like; you can change that.
Remember, you have the power to change your values. Don’t waste another moment being frustrated, angry, or sorrowful. Begin changing your values from what they are to what you desire them to be. When you are living your true self, you’ll enjoy life more. Start on your journey to living your true self today!
Want some help getting aligned with your core values in order to re-discover meaning, passion, and purpose for your life? If you’re ready to make changes in your life to take control of your mental, emotional, physical, and financial destiny, I’d love to spend some time talking with you! We can explore how to bring greater harmony and balance into your current life situation with a 45 minute FREE life transformation strategy session.
In this session we will:
- Uncover hidden challenges that may be the cause of chaos, stress and discord in your life.
- Create a crystal clear vision for your “ultimate life” of tremendous success on your terms with ample quality time and energy for all your priorities.
- Leave the session renewed, re-energized, and inspired to transform your life and accomplish all of the things that are really important to you.
Click here to schedule your complimentary session!
My new Facebook site is now up! Please visit. I’d appreciate your “Like!” and if you sign up for my e-list from Facebook, I’ll send you my latest time management suggestions.
Want to use this article on your website or your own Ezine?
Thanks for appreciating the value of this content. You’re welcome to reproduce this article, but you must reproduce it in its entirety and leave all the links active. Additionally, here is the short bio that you should include:
Dr. Steve Stutz, CC is a Life Success Coach, specializing in working with busy professionals and entrepreneurs. To receive periodic personal development tips and success mindset articles, please join his e-list by visiting www.forwardpathcoaching.com
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