In the audio version of Unlimited Power, Tony Robbins says, “The quality of your life is the quality of your questions.” That’s a powerful statement, but one that is often under appreciated. Questions can be an important way of communicating with others and getting inside their belief systems and most of us have some recognition of this power. We’ve been taught to ask “open ended” questions and to use active listening to encourage the person we are talking with to open up even more. People who have been trained in NLP will automatically begin using questions to ascertain someone’s representational systems. These are all great applications of question asking, but the most often overlooked application is also one of the most powerful—it’s when we turn the questions upon ourselves.
A few weeks ago I caught part of a video in which Jack Canfield was talking about this amazing technique called “tapping.” I was skeptical as I watched, but decided to investigate the literature and do some testing on myself. The process that Jack was describing is called EFT (emotional freedom technique) and it is a form of psychological acupressure based on the ancient principles of acupuncture. Instead of needles, EFT uses finger tapping on a series of key acupuncture points while focusing one’s thoughts on whatever happens to be the presenting issue (ie. pain, uncomfortable emotions, memories, cravings, etc.)
EFT operates on the premise that everything is made up of energy, including us, we’re simply moving it around, realigning it and allowing it to flow. The goal of EFT is to help the body to re-balance the internal energy field and accelerate healing. The underlying idea is that an energy imbalance in the body is at the root of illness, physical pain, depression, anxiety, fear, anger, etc. EFT re-balances the energy system and helps to relieve psychological stress and physical pain. Restoring the balance of the energy system allows the body and mind to resume their natural healing abilities. Practioners swear that EFT often works when nothing else will.
Let’s face it: very few of us come close to achieving our true potential. Marianne Williamson writes: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of god. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of god that is within us. It is not just in some of us. It is in everyone. And as we let our light shine, we give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
I agree with Marianne. A major reason that many of us underachieve is because we don’t allow ourselves the luxury of imagining what could be possible in our lives if we simply got out of our own way. And because we won’t allow ourselves to envision it or imagine it, what we want becomes impossible for us to ever create. Every super successful person you’ve ever heard of will tell you that it all starts with dreaming of big, expansive, seemingly impossible dreams and making a commitment to seeing them come into being. It’s scary, it’s uncomfortable, and it’s so very necessary because when you allow yourself to entertain truly big dreams, your self-esteem and self-confidence begin to climb. As you feel better and more confident about your ability to handle whatever life throws at you, you become more flexible and open to innovation. This is really the moment that things begin to change for the better.
One day I found myself in a room with several hundred highly creative and passionate entrepreneurs from around the world. There was a level of energy and expectation that rippled through the room as we waited for the conference to begin. From the lighting to the music being played to the pictures on the big screen of the previous night’s “meet and greet” social to the optimal ambient room temperature and the physical arrangement of the seating-everything had been carefully crafted to create an environment that would bring out exactly what the speaker wanted-which was to create a group of fully associated (i.e. “in the present moment”), highly energetic, and sharply focused individuals who were relaxed, playful, and ready to receive the presenter’s message.
As I got to know some of the very talented people in the room and the amazing things which they had accomplished, my “coaching” hat came out and I started to wonder about “creativity” and “passion.” How does creativity begin? Does it start as a dream? Does a light bulb suddenly appear over your head? Or is there something specific you can do to spark your creativity and passion.
Dr. Steve Stutz, CTACC is a certified Life Coach, spiritual director, and conference/ workshop speaker. He lives in the Houston, TX metro area and specializes in the helping people sort through the complexities of modern life to discover their passions, gifts, and personal style.