If the smart guys on “Big Bang Theory” ever get around to inventing time travel, you might physically have that opportunity. In the meanwhile, would you consider a “mid-life restart”? If so, are you ready to jump in and take massive, focused, consistent action to make it happen?
I’ve asked lots of people that question and usually they say, “Well, sure! I wouldn’t be calling you if I weren’t committed.” And they really mean it when they say it, but sometimes people have trouble actually “doing it” after they hang up the phone. Ideas start running through their minds that question their sanity. Is it really possible to “start over” in my life? To get a better relationship? To improve my health? To get out of debt or increase my income? And before they even get started, they’re defeated. (A couple of weeks ago my blog on self-sabotage explained how to defeat this line of thinking.)
Maybe you know people who spend a lot of time complaining about situations they don’t like, but are unwilling to do anything to change those situations. Maybe it’s their current job, or their current lover, their current financial situation, poor health, chaotic schedule or whatever. What keeps them rooted in a situation that they are unhappy with?
The short answer is because to change is step out into uncharted territory and that can be scary. (Here’s my previous blog on why you resist change and how to overcome it!) And so, even though someone may not like what they are currently experiencing in life, at least it is a “given” and is somewhat predictable. There is something comforting about it, even if its dysfunction. At least you know how you fit in and what your standard scripts are. But how healthy is that in the long run?
So, moving forward will necessarily involve a certain level of uncomfortableness. There will be some unknowns and some challenges that will test your faith. The bottom line, however, is you have to take the first step. Things will not magically fix themselves. If you’re unhappy with something – your job, your relationship, your house, your life – something MUST change, and the only thing you really have control over is YOU! You control your responses to events, which changes the outcome.
I know it’s difficult and scary, and so here are a few thoughts to help create your new reality and a new beginning in your life:
1. Decide right now that this is a new beginning. Setting your intention is the necessary first step.
2. Next, get crystal clear about what you DO want, not what you don’t want. What you focus on you empower. What you empower, expands and manifests. You want to be manifesting what you want and not more of the negativity that you don’t want.
3. Begin to act “as if” what you desire already exists. Someone has called this “fake it until you make it.” It’s not being deceitful; it’s conditioning your subconscious mind to see yourself in a new, different, empowering way.
4. Be grateful for what has already come your way and be thankful in anticipation of all the good stuff that is currently on its way to you.
5. Make room by cleaning out both the physical and spiritual clutter in your life that prevents new, positive, healthy things from manifesting.
6. Find a mentor and do some modeling. Tony Robbins says, “Success leaves clues.” Who is currently living YOUR dream? Make contact and ask them how they got there. Most people are happy to share their story.
7. Change your beliefs. If you are not getting the results you want, change what you are doing. Find a belief system that supports you rather than hamstrings you.
So, are you ready to take a chance? Ready to make some changes? Want to start over right now? You can if you want to. A great first step for you might be to contact me for a 45 minute FREE life transformation strategy session.
In this session we will:
- Uncover hidden challenges that may be the cause of chaos, stress and discord in your life.
- Create a crystal clear vision for your “ultimate life” of tremendous success on your terms with ample quality time and energy for all your priorities.
- Leave the session renewed, re-energized, and inspired to transform your life and accomplish all of the things that are really important to you.
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